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Top 5 Needs of Men and Women

13th February 2006 - By Aaron Gadberry

This is taken from a survey of 258 counseling centers across America. I can find no documentation of this survey, so it may be a rumor, however the information has helped me significantly.

5 top basic needs of a man

  1. Sexual Fulfillment
  2. Recreational Companionship
  3. Attractive Spouse
  4. Domestic Support (Know how to run the house)
  5. Admiration

5 top basic needs of a woman

  1. Affection
  2. Conversation (understand feeling, not thinking)
  3. Honesty
  4. Financial Support
  5. Family Commitment

Of course these are not across the board. There are exceptions, lots of exceptions, however you can see some behavioral patterns across them. Girls will typically get together with other girlfriends and talk for the entire night, a representation of woman’s need for conversation. Men enjoy guy’s nights of recreational companionship, watching football, playing baseball, etc.

I heard these on a tape by Joe McGee. If you or someone you know needs help with a marriage or relationship, I would highly recommend getting some of his material. He is a traveling Christian minister, with a strong revelation in the area of men, women, marriages, families and children.

As Joe would say, “Men and women are different, it’s ok.”

UPDATE: Now for a question. Are the needs inherent, or culturally based? It doesn’t really matter, because they are still the needs, but it is an interesting question.

4 Responses to “Top 5 Needs of Men and Women”

  1. 2 top basic needs of man/woman « nicxynicxy Says:

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  3. Becky Gili Says:

    I am a widowed woman in my late fifties and a christian. I still have very strong sexual desires but I am not sexually active. If an mans first need is sex how do you keep him interested in you without having sex. I would like to marry again but have found when you tell a man no sex before marriage his interest move elsewhere.

  4. Happy New Year! Here’s to the Best Year Ever! « Jennifer Hurst Says:

    […] Does that sound selfish?  What do I have to offer that future someone?  What is my value as a potential spouse?  Dating after divorce is such an interesting process as I’ve read up on it and watched my sister go through it.  It really just comes down to what your social value is and if you can meet his needs.   Now this is a no brainer, but really, when it comes down to meeting your spouses needs and having your needs met, the basic five that come up the most in surveys are: […]

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